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“Finding The Rightness within Right”



“Being “right” is the easy part. Finding the “rightness” within the opposite point of view is the challenge.” -Barry Johnson “Polarity Management”

I read this quote and thought of all the controversy and rhetoric that so many of us were caught-up in just a month or so ago. I don’t know about you but I’ve taking a step back lately needing to catch my breath and move onto healthier hopeful positive things that bring some goodness back into my life. It’s created some wedges between me and some of the people I care about. I find it’s unfortunate because it’s behind the wall of the internet that so many things have been said, misunderstood, taking out of context and assumed without the advantage and respect of a face to face conversation. Body language and facial expression play a big part in expression our passions. But more than that don’t we owe at least the benefit of the doubt to those we loved and cherished for so many other reasons that go beyond politics?

I looked at the front page of the Lancaster newspaper today. Jeff Hawkes a reporter for the LNP had a perfect article called the “Bridge Tables” to go with the thought provoking quote above. It’s about a way of bringing people of different political views together in a way that they can discuss their differences in a respectful way with nothing between them except the table they sit at. The event is called the Left/Right Café and the premise behind it is to heal America’s political divide. The organizers Eric Sauder and Jamie Beth Schindler’s idea is for liberals and conservatives to come together for a respectful conversation getting past stereotypes and broadening understanding in a safe comfortable environment. Breaking bread and sharing food often has a way of bringing people together in a non- threating way. The hope is to find some understanding and a place of common ground, and from the article it appears that’s what these willing conversations did. It opened each other’s eyes that sometimes what is right to us is not so different from what the other persons believes, but even if it’s not giving one a chance to explain themselves can allow us to better agree to disagree. And who knows maybe we’d learn a fact or two that holds some truth within it giving us a chance to broaden our perspective on beliefs.

For local readers, I’ll pass on that if you want to know more you can contact Jamie Beth Shchindler at LANCoalition@gmail.com


“Weaving The Tapestry Of Our Friendships”


Silence is one of the golden threads in the tapestry of our friendship.

Mindfulness is the needle that weaves the threads of thought together.

How we think,listen and respond determines how bright our friendships shine.

“The Reflections Of Our Actions”


This Baby







Every parent and grandparent knows the moment when this innocent child begins to be influenced by those around them, and all the things that exist in our own little world. We say and do things in front of the children without even thinking how it sinks into their psyches. It’s just another example of the responsibility we each have. That responsibility begins with our own changed heart, and what we try to understand and make better will be reflected in our own actions. As a grandparent, I ask myself what can I do to leave behind a better world for my grandchildren. I’m reminded of the St. Francis prayer once again. “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.” In wanting to change the world for the better, than I have to change myself first. I must become the example by the way I live my life. So it means a real examination of conscious. What is it that I need to weed out of my beliefs and thoughts that stands in the way of the better good for all?

“Sunday’s With Ollie” 4th Of July


On behalf of my fellow fury friends, I must speck out on the subject of “ fireworks.” Those loud burst and bangs and bright lights streaking across the sky is enough to knock the fur right off my body. You know we do lose a significant amount of hair when we get scared. I know it’s not thunder and lightning, it has a different feel and scent in the air. My hearing is sensitive — did you know that I hear approximately four times better than a human, I’m able to tune into a larger range of frequencies — fireworks can be particularly upsetting for me and my fellow dog friends. I bet you weren’t aware that my ears alone use 18 muscles to facilitate “all around” movement. My job is to be on guard to protect my tribe, and all this commotion makes my antenna’s go haywire. So my Connie and I sat down today to read up on some ways we can work together to make things a little better on us dogs. I thought it would be nice to share with my furry friend owners out there to get the word out.

 DogVacay pet expert Nicole Miller recommend these safeguards for canine companions:

1. Stay calm because we dogs notice your body language. If you get startle at fireworks Miller says, than we dogs will too. Right off the bat that doesn’t help me much because I know my Connie will be jumping the moment she hears them.

2. Wear us out. Take us for a long walk before festivities begin to tire and calm us. I like this idea, walks are fun, I get to smell and pee on lots of hydrants, getting to read the messages of my fellow canine friends around the neighborhood, and walks do wear me out.

3. Mental games will mellow us out and distract us by redirect our attention on something else like a new toy or throwing a ball. Miller says, this is so we can associates the noises with something positive like playing. I’m always up for a new toy!

4: Let us alone if we run off to hide. Don’t force us to get used to the sounds. It only aggravates us more causing us to get more aggressive.

5: Try a ThunderShirt. These anxiety vests safely provide a calming, snug fit to relax your canine during storms or fireworks. My Tom thinks I could use this straitjacket at least once a week to calm me down some days. Maybe it would work in the car too so I can go away with them.

6: Most important make sure we don’t get out. I know I’d run so fast all over the neighborhood I’d probable get hit by car. Closing the curtains and blinds to block flashing light can help too.

Every dog is different just like humans and you have to find what works best for each of us. All we dogs are asking is that you don’t forget about us while your looking up the great display of lights. We know how important celebrations are to humans, lets work together.

Your lucky dog friend,