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Fight Fire with Fire and “VOTE”

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“From a little spark may burst a mighty flame.” -David Alighieri

Our thoughts come as quick as the strike of a match, and without paying much attention the thought it ignites…can warm our house or burn it down.

When we strike the match of fear, mindfulness gives us the opportunity to blow it out before that fear turns into a might flame of anxiety and stress.

That little spark of fear has been ignited under our country and it’s burst into a might flame. It’s burning away our hope and we’re feeding the flame with our own logs of fear.

Some of us keep throwing our buckets of hope on the fire trying to put the flame of fear out. It’s as exhausting as the firefighter who works hard to put a forest fires out. When it gets that out of control you have to fight fire with fire to keep it form going any further, meeting somewhere in the middle.

Right now voting is the only way we have to fight this flame of fear burning. If you don’t want to vote because you think it doesn’t matter than you’re ignoring the very fire that will eventually affect you. If you don’t know who to vote for simple go inside yourself deep down into your soul and ask for guidance. Which vote will contribute to the fire of fear and which one will help us to find a place closer to the middle where it can begin to burn out.

 

 

“My Carpet Bag Of Baggage”

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Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” -Pema Chodron

I love painting pictures with my words. It starts when I’m trying to figure something out. I visualize what I’m thinking in an animated or metaphoric way that helps me make sense of it. So, what is my carpet bag of baggage?

It’s a rug big enough to fit all the stuff I’ve collect along the various journeys of my-life. It’s an ugly carpet, full of untruths, most of them having to do with my self-esteem. It’s all tied together with the black rope of fear. I’m so used to carrying it around that I don’t even feel how much it’s weighing me down most of the time. It’s in those moments when I’m paying attention to life that it falls off my shoulder. It’s a wonderful feeling as if I’ve sucked in some helium and I’m floating right above the ground. And I wonder why it can’t be like this all the time.

When the black rope of fear sees me happy it starts to untie itself around the carpet. Moving like a snake. Fear knows I’m afraid of snakes. It’s the way it gets my attention. As the carpet bag begins to slowly open all the dreadful demeaning voices jump around shouting me, me, me pick me. All it takes is for me to believe one demeaning thought of worthiness, and I’ll find myself standing upon the rug that fear uses, to pull the joy right out from under me.

But I’m seeing a little clearer now. They say, you have to see what needs changed, before you can change it. As the quote says about, “nothing goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” I’m learning one thing for sure, that as big as fear looks, what lies on the other side of it is majestic.

“The Giant Lady and The Baby Spider” -a lesson in all lives matter

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Photo from Anxaid.

Baby spider stood proudly looking up at the Daddy-long-legs surrounding him and proceeded to tell his story. “There I was,” he said, “exploring the world of the Giants for the first time, walking innocently across the floor when I stepped onto a bright soft surface. I could hear the rumble of the floor getting closer and closer stopping me in my tracks. There she was towering over me as I looked all the way up meeting her eyes.

“ Ohhhhh…the Daddies cried out in surprise as they listened.”

“How could you survive such a confrontation?” one of the Daddies called out.

“Even our most experienced Daddies, could have never survived such a vulnerable situation without the big foot coming down them,” another Daddy chimed in.

“The strangest thing happened as she suddenly started to scream. Her feet jumped up and down so fast I couldn’t tell one from the other. Her hands flew up covering her eyes than everything became quiet as I waited for her next move. Two fingers spread apart and I could see one eye looking down at me.

“Ah ha ha ha ha ha,” the Daddies roared out in laughter.

“I realized in that moment…that she was as scared of me as I was her.”

“What did she do?”

“How did you get away?”

“How did you live to tell us this story?” The Daddies called out.

“She picked the cloth up and hung it on a peg. While I remained hidden in its folds she whispered to me, “this is your lucky day baby spider because I have chosen to respond rather than react,” she said to me.

“What do you suppose she meant by that?” the Daddies talked among themselves.

The wisest of all the Daddies stepped forward standing over the baby spider, and said, “it is anger, fear and misunderstanding that makes us react to unfamiliar things. If the giant lady hadn’t stopped to think about how silly she was acting she would have easily reacted by stomping down on the little guy. But when she took a moment to evaluate the situation it gave her enough pause to respond in a way that was more in line with her own truth.”

“What do you suppose that truth is?” Asked one of the Daddies.

It was the baby spider that answered this time, “I learned a great lesson today. That no matter how big or small you are we all have fears of the unknown, and it’s what we do with our fear that determines the outcome of our action. I believe that the truth in her heart was that even though we are very different in many ways she remembered in that moment that all lives matter.”

“Resistance”

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Resistance- the refusal to accept or comply with something. There are many definitions of the word resistance. What I’m talking about today is the resistance we experience when we know we need to do a certain thing, but we keep finding excuses not to do it. The harder we have to work at resisting something, is usually an indication of how important the very thing is that we’re resisting.

Why do I resist what I know is the best thing for me to do?
• Sometimes it’s scary to take a step toward the unknown.
• Change means I have to get out of my comfort zone too. Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow.
• What if I fail?
• What if I’m listening to the wrong voice inside, and I’m not really supposed to do it?

When I’m in this place of resistance, I am not myself. I get miserable, depressed, agitated and unable to express myself. It’s as if I’ve been cut in half like a worm still able to function but not with all my working parts. It’s hard to find the clarity I need to put myself back together. My ego is happy in this state of mind because it’s in charge leading the way. To where? I doesn’t even know or care, but in the state of resistance, confusion is created where clarity can’t be found. It takes a lot of effort to get to that place of mindfulness where I am able to put myself back together. When the real me stands up, I know I am back home where I belong with my mind, body and soul working together as one.

It is than that I am always in ah as to how I could have falling into such a place of discontent. Why would I want to be anywhere else but in this place of clarity and understanding. But then I realize each time I become lost, it is another opportunity to find my way back, and as I do, I learn so many new lessons along the way that create a deeper understanding. Resistance is just another way of teaching me the difference between who I really am, and who I am not.

“Sunday’s with Ollie”

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Attacking the TV, is what I do! Now you have to understand for a dog like me it looks like there’s another world going on inside my own world. I have a strong protective instinct, and sometimes I fear that the animals are going to jump through the window of their world into mine. Or maybe one of the bad guys are going to hurt my Connie. It makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. So when I hear the loud sounds of barking dogs, upset people, guns, bombs, storms, and fast cars. I stand at attention with determination like a warrior at the front of the threat. I charge forward, jumping into the air like super dog. I might be a small dog, but I have the spirit of a giant. No matter how much I try though, I can’t figure out how to get inside that other world. The window I see it through doesn’t have an opening. Eventually things settle down inside the land of TV. I walk away and forget about it until the next time. Being fearful over things that aren’t really happening in our own world only causes unnecessary stress and anxiety. I guess there are things that are beyond our understanding. When we spend so much time trying to face what isn’t even ours to face, it’s like trying to get inside a world you don’t belong in. While in the process of it we forget were we are and lose sight of the world we live in right now.

Ok enough of that serious us stuff. I think it’s time to put my super dog bacon cape on and run around the table a few times. Yes I’m feeling good, this super lucky do is on fire. As Buzz Lightyear would say “to infinity and beyond.” Hey…It’s ok to pretend.

“Overwhelmed”

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Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”-Earl Nightingale 

This is today’s quote which I have set up on my phone. The timer for it rings at 9:00am, but I was too busy to open it up until after I already got frustrated with my project. 

As I’m sorting through 45 years of family picture trying to decide what I want to do with them, I find it very overwhelming. They’re spread out all over the dining room table. They’ve been there for a few weeks and every time I sit down to work on it I feel the same way, like I’m never going to get it done. 

Then I take a break checking out my emails, Facebook and blog and open my quote of the day. I’m reminded how God always finds a way to tell us what we need to know.

“Melting Away The Fear”

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Fear does nothing but hold us captive in its grip.
Consciousness gives us the opportunity to make an informed decision. 

Courage gives the opportunity to move forward.

Serenity gives us peace of mind.

How do we get from fear to the consciousness that gives us the courage to move forward where serenity can be found? 

When we reconnect with the opposite, “Love.” It’s like pouring water on the wicked witch of the west. It melts away.