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“Pleasing Can Become Dis-easing”


I could almost laugh hysterical out loud if I didn’t cry first as I realize today how much my physical symptoms resemble my emotional feeling. It’s all in my head. Up into my sinuses as high it can go until reaching my brain where my thoughts are created. I feel like my whole head is constipated, and I wonder, did I create all this myself? It seems to be compacted by doing things I don’t really want to do. What can I say, I’m a people pleaser. I always have been, and always will be. But as I was talking to one of my girls about it, she admitting being a people pleaser too, but for the right reason. Because she enjoys doing things that makes people feel good. I thought, yes, me too! However, with any quality comes two ways of using it. It can be productive or destructive. So we have to use it just as mindfully as we do anything else. If we don’t than every time we go against ourself it adds up and before we know it we become all stuffed up, infected and irritated.

So I ask myself, “what is the solution?”

My inner spirit says, “love yourself as God loves you, and all that love will come shining through .”

“Sunday’s With Ollie” 4th Of July


On behalf of my fellow fury friends, I must speck out on the subject of “ fireworks.” Those loud burst and bangs and bright lights streaking across the sky is enough to knock the fur right off my body. You know we do lose a significant amount of hair when we get scared. I know it’s not thunder and lightning, it has a different feel and scent in the air. My hearing is sensitive — did you know that I hear approximately four times better than a human, I’m able to tune into a larger range of frequencies — fireworks can be particularly upsetting for me and my fellow dog friends. I bet you weren’t aware that my ears alone use 18 muscles to facilitate “all around” movement. My job is to be on guard to protect my tribe, and all this commotion makes my antenna’s go haywire. So my Connie and I sat down today to read up on some ways we can work together to make things a little better on us dogs. I thought it would be nice to share with my furry friend owners out there to get the word out.

 DogVacay pet expert Nicole Miller recommend these safeguards for canine companions:

1. Stay calm because we dogs notice your body language. If you get startle at fireworks Miller says, than we dogs will too. Right off the bat that doesn’t help me much because I know my Connie will be jumping the moment she hears them.

2. Wear us out. Take us for a long walk before festivities begin to tire and calm us. I like this idea, walks are fun, I get to smell and pee on lots of hydrants, getting to read the messages of my fellow canine friends around the neighborhood, and walks do wear me out.

3. Mental games will mellow us out and distract us by redirect our attention on something else like a new toy or throwing a ball. Miller says, this is so we can associates the noises with something positive like playing. I’m always up for a new toy!

4: Let us alone if we run off to hide. Don’t force us to get used to the sounds. It only aggravates us more causing us to get more aggressive.

5: Try a ThunderShirt. These anxiety vests safely provide a calming, snug fit to relax your canine during storms or fireworks. My Tom thinks I could use this straitjacket at least once a week to calm me down some days. Maybe it would work in the car too so I can go away with them.

6: Most important make sure we don’t get out. I know I’d run so fast all over the neighborhood I’d probable get hit by car. Closing the curtains and blinds to block flashing light can help too.

Every dog is different just like humans and you have to find what works best for each of us. All we dogs are asking is that you don’t forget about us while your looking up the great display of lights. We know how important celebrations are to humans, lets work together.

Your lucky dog friend,