Category Archives: Parenting

“Our Love Story”

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We’ve only just begun…to live, 
white lace and promises,  
a kiss for luck, 
and we’re on our way, 
we’ve only just begun. 
-The Carpenters   

So much of life ahead of us, we weren’t thinking how our love would grow. We were too busy enjoying the love we shared every moment we were together. “It was only the beginning,” we sang along with Chicago. I know there is quite a contrast between the Carpenters and Chicago music we liked, but both expressed so well our life then, and how we felt about each other. How could we have known in the beginning that what started with the two of us would grow into the wonderful family we have 46 years later.  


How excited we were to begin our family. An actual human being created from our love. As we entered into the world of parenthood our family grew from the two of us to six, and the next generation of our love came into the world. It was a time when our love for each other was put on the shelf for a while as our children became the center of our life. How quickly the years passed by and before we knew it we became empty nesters. Back to just the two of us. A chance to fall in love all over again. Making the pain of letting go of our children a little bit easier. We still had each other.  


Soon our own children fell in love and begin their own lives with the same white lace, and promises, a kiss for luck, and they were on their way. Not long after they began their own family’s. A 3rd generation that began with us came into the world as we became grandparents. Our grandchildren the most beautiful of all the flowers grown from our garden of love.  


Proudly we stand together the two of us looking around at the family that began with us. We say in ah to one another, how could we have ever imagined how wonderful our life would turn out to be.  

Then our grandchild fell in love carrying on the same tradition of white lace and promises, a kiss for luck and their on their way. 

Soon we are great grandparents as the 4th generation of us comes into the world. 


We seem to be looking from a further distance now watching as if we are looking from a mountain top down at the valley of family that began with us.   

We were two young kids who didn’t have anything else going for us except our love for one another. 


But where there is love anything is possible and when you add God to the equation everything else seems to fall together. What began as two has grown into 21, and the funny thing is with each new generations that’s followed we still feel as if each day together we’ve only just begun to live because everyday is new opportunity to fall in love all over again because we still have each other. 

Happy Anniversary my love!!!

“Self-Worth”

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One of my grandsons recently said he wasn’t looking forward to going back to school because he hates homework. I chuckled and said, “ I don’t think anyone likes to do homework.” But he went on to say that he hated it because he was stupid. “Don’t say that,” I said. “You’re not stupid, and if you keep saying and believing it, you will never see how smart you really are.”
It broke my heart same as it did when my own kids thought it at one point or another. It even opened wounds of my own, as I remembered how hard school was for me because I believed the same thing.

I later tried to sit him down and get him to think about how wonderful made he is. That God doesn’t make mistakes, and that there’s this wonderful power he gives that allows us to see ourselves in whatever way we want to. Of course as you’ve probable guessed by now, it went in one ear and out the other. He’s a child and he’s not able to comprehend that. Even as adults we find it hard to tap into that power. We have to be willing and open to see something beyond our limited mind. It’s there, always has been, and always will be. It sits in waiting for us to discover it when we’re ready.

How did I see my own worth? One day as a young adult, someone told me that God doesn’t make mistakes. When I was told that there was no one else in the world like me, and that no one could do what I alone was created to do. When I understood that everyone was unique in their own way, it was then that something opened up in me, and I began to see that my life had meaning, and it was all my own. It doesn’t even matter how smart a person is, it won’t help them understand any better. You have to be willing and open to see something different, and then you have to work at changing all those old thought patterns. Oh…how freeing it is when this understanding awakens in us.

As for our kids and grandchildren, there is still the work we can do to show them the same worth God has shown us. We love, encourage, build them up, and most of all listen. In this way we become an expression for them what God has become for us. You don’t need some big revelation in your life to do this, just start from your deepest sense of goodness and watch the miracles it creates for you and them.

“On Being A Parent”

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On Being a Parent
We raise our children watching them go from one stage of life to another. Than we have to let them go. It’s something that no one can ever prepare you for, but you have to do it trusting as the birds do that they will be able to fly on their own. But the truth is that you never stop being a parent. You’re always there for them when they need you. You always see the best in them even when they can’t see it in themselves. You always give your two cents, only with a little less flare then you did when they were kids. I guess as parents we are all a little partial to our own kids, we wish others could see them through our eyes. We still hate to see them hurting, treated unfairly, and we never lose that desire in our hearts to make everything better for them again. Yes being a parent never stops because you will forever be our children and we will always love you, wanting nothing but the best for you.