Category Archives: Life

The Gift of Independance & Freedom for All

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Today is the 4th of July, but that’s simple the date on the calendar. What’s it all about?

It’s the day that the Continental Congress declared that the thirteen American colonies were no longer subject to the monarch of Britain and were now united, free, and independent states. Today we celebrate “Independence Day.”

I think to myself how blessed I am to be born an American. I am able to live and practice the gift of freedom that comes from above all, our Creator. With this gift comes a great responsibility. While I am as independent as each state is, what I choose to do, think, and say, affects the better good or bad of all. There is voice I hear inside when something doesn’t feel right, it says, “something’s happening here, and what it is ain’t exactly clear.” It’s the voice of warning that calls for each one of us to make a choice; will you simple do what you please or do what is right?

For in the end It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more then our personal desires.

“Goodness”

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It’s all in the way you choose to see it!

Whenever I hear the word goodness I can’t help but think of Nana Rife. After braising or roasting she would say, “what’s left behind in the pan is all the goodness, and that’s what you use to make good gravy.”  

 It’s such a great reminder that even goodness can be found in the messy things of our life. As we scrap, pick, and stir all the good parts together we too are able to create a life full of rich goodness. It’s a matter of choice, I can see the mucky mess of the pan and dread the idea of cleaning it or I can choose to make something good out it. The funny thing is when we choose to see goodness instead of muck the difficult things break apart easier becoming softer until all the muck is smoothed out in our life. The proof is in the gravy for in using the goodness…the pan in turn becomes easier to clean.

”The Smile Workout”

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Life is like a mirror, smile at it, and it smiles back at you. -Peace Pilgrim

I am working on a new exercise. It’s one for the face called a smile. I am cursed with the Miller frown. I don’t even realize most of the time that I’m doing it, so if you see me frowning smile at me and I’ll give you one back. I certainly don’t frown because I’m unhappy or miserable at least most of the time I can say that. I think I have a combination of things going on here one came from an unhappy childhood when I had something to frown about, then there’s genetics, and now age, when everything begins to sage including the face. Even now, as I write this, I catch myself going into that frown that comes about when I’m concentrating on something.

I remember the day I married Tom. I was smiling so much that by the end of the day, my face hurt. As with all exercises, no pain, no gain as they say. So, I read that the best way to do this exercise is to have a mirror nearby so you can catch yourself at a glance. It’s a kind of hard to do that. So, I’ve decided to let life be my mirror reflection. My smile is the practice, and your smile is the strength I gain!

What’s A Bug Got To Do With It?

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Today my reading was about bugs. Yes, you heard me right. Bugs trigger a funny bone kind of reaction in me that has to do with fear. That is if I find one on me or in my house. It got me thinking of a conversation I was having with a friend the other day about fear. It makes me wonder where that fear came from because as a child who spent a lot of time outside, I thought bugs were fascinating.

How silly it is when you think about it that we should fear such tiny little creatures. It’s almost like an exaggeration of how one human emotion can get out of control without any thought or understand as to how it ever became a truth we to let ourselves believe.

What is fear, but an instinctive reaction to an unpleasant feeling triggered by the perception of danger, real or imagined.

That one tiny bug, after all, could bite me and who knows what will become of me then? All that thought process takes away from the wonderful things that bugs have to teach us. Like what facing our own fears can really do for us. I mean think about it, where do these tiny creatures get the courage to walk on our giant bodies in the first place? I don’t know about you, but I sure wish I had that kind of fearless approach to even the simplest of things in my life.

What’s a bug got to do with it? It teaches us what FDR meant when he said, ”there is nothing to fear, but fear itself.”

”Divinely Made”

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Even a Toad is Divinely created! -Connie Rife

My reading today is called ”Tommy Toad.” it’s about a Toad who wishes it was a Frog so it could sing along with the frogs at night around the pond.

I recently made a judgment that someone was a Toad, not a Frog. I’ve always had a fondness for frogs; I don’t know why, maybe I was a Frog in another life. I liked them so much as a child that I even tried to grow them in my own little dug out pond. Needless to say the baby polliwogs were gone the next day along with the water that seeped into the earth.

What I learned in this reading was a simple reminder that everything and everyone has a purpose onto his own. As Tommy Toad learned that his dreams to sing in the choir would never come true unless he stepped out in faith to give it a try. He became the only baritone in the choir and his voice added something special that had been missing all along.

We all have something special to add to the choir of life, so don’t judge a Toad by comparing him to a Frog. One can be as easily kissed as the other, and you never know what they have to offer until you open your heart and let them in.

Still Learning After All These Years

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“I am not young enough to know everything.”

-Oscar Wilde

We only know and understand to the extent of what we’ve learned in our lifetime. So, to look at another and expect them to understand something from our perspective is an unfair approach to take. Each and everyone one of us is doing the best we can with what we know and believe. Maybe a better approach to take then our expectations of others is simple to live our truth in the hope of being the best example we can be.

Serenity

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No matter what I’m going through in life there’s one simple prayer I know I can turn to that gives me a sense of guidance, clarity, and strength to follow through with.

It’s the Serenity prayer:

”God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Can You See It?

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I awake early, no matter how late I get to sleep. Lying in bed looking out my lace veiled window, the darkness of night is bowing to the light of day, and the morning birds sing their joyful songs of praise. It’s a brand-new day. A bright light shines through the tree, and I say good morning, God, and it becomes more brilliant like a star.  I smile to myself being reminded that God is in everything, all we have to do is open our eyes to see. Wanting to capture the moment in a picture to share with you, it turns out to look like the Holy Spirit. 

Can you see it?

I could find a logical reason for what I’m seeing. We can usually explain away the things that seem like miracles to us. That’s the beauty of life and the lesson for today. I can choose to see this or that. The good or the bad, the positive or negative, the love or hate, the past or the present, the emptiness or fullness of life.

Can you see it?

Letting Go is Hard To Do

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It’s that time of year when birds build their nest tend to their new families with great devotion than suddenly push the matured baby’s out of the nest. How does it know to fly or where to find food and shelter?

Its also the time of year when graduations take place and parents begin their own process of letting go.

No one ever told me how hard it was going to be. Its almost like going through the stages of grief. If you think about it, that makes sense because it is the end of a way of life for both child & parent.

How wonderful nature is in teaching us the process of letting go. How could a bird every learn to fly it didn’t take that first leap? And what if the parents held them back protecting them from all the things that could go wrong?

How will they ever learn if we don’t let go? Its the one time in your life when you feel the most determination to hang on but in the end its the most courageous thing you can do to teach them how to fly on their own.

“Living A Purposeful New Year”

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I love the beginning of a new year. It’s as if once a year we give ourselves permission to start with a clean slate. It’s our opportunity to shed the layers of last year. Just like a snake does when it’s outgrown its skin. Leaving behind all the things that weigh and constrict us from moving forward with greater ease. The trick is, to let it go, and not drag those layers along with us. I started thinking the day after Christmas about all the changes and resolutions I was going to make for the coming new year. As my list grew, I came across a quote from Rumi that put it all into perspective for me.

“There is one thing in the world that we must never forget to do. If you forget everything else and not this, there’s nothing to worry about, but if you remember everything else and forget this, then you will have done nothing in your life… That work is the purpose, and each is specific to the person.”

Hum! Purpose! What is my purpose? And at what point in my life am I going to put that purpose into effect? As soon as I start asking these kinds of question the guidance comes in one form or another. I realize that it doesn’t matter how many times I wonder if I don’t open myself to the answer completely. I then think back over my life. What have learned? What do I do the best? What do I do that gives me the most joy?  Where do the compliments come from? What things do people thank me for? 

As I contemplate the questions and really take the time to consider them. I thought my purpose was simply to be the person God created me to be. But then I realized that wasn’t my purpose. That’s what my meaning in life is, to discover who I am in relation to my creator. Within that meaning lies the key to my purpose. Like the song goes, looking for love in all the wrong places, we go through a lifetime searching for our meaning and purpose everywhere else… except inside ourselves. What we come to discover deep down inside is that we’ve always known who we are, and what we have to offer the world. We just can’t see it until we get out of our own way long enough to touch the depth of our soul where we see a mirror reflection of ourselves through the eyes of God.

So, my new year’s resolution and intent are to practice living a more purposeful driven life. Asking myself along this 2019 journey how does my purpose fit into the changes I want to make in my life. If I find myself putting more effort into the project then the purpose, I can always gage it by how off balance I’ll feel. The beauty of new beginnings is that we don’t have to wait for a new year to start all over again. They begin the moment we put them into effect. 

May your New Year be blessed with all your hearts desires as well as peace and love.