Monthly Archives: February 2017

“Memories”

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Memories

It can be any time or place…

When suddenly they start…

Those memories of yesterday

That so delight the heart…

 

They’re brought about by many things…

A treasured photograph,

A song’s familiar melody,

A child’s delightful laugh…

 

They bring a gladness to the heart,

A warmness to the soul…

They take an ordinary day

And somehow make it whole…

 

Those precious, priceless memories

That time cannot destroy…

They come and go and leave

A gentle, sentimental joy.

 Author Unknown

 

“Our Love Story”

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We’ve only just begun…to live, 
white lace and promises,  
a kiss for luck, 
and we’re on our way, 
we’ve only just begun. 
-The Carpenters   

So much of life ahead of us, we weren’t thinking how our love would grow. We were too busy enjoying the love we shared every moment we were together. “It was only the beginning,” we sang along with Chicago. I know there is quite a contrast between the Carpenters and Chicago music we liked, but both expressed so well our life then, and how we felt about each other. How could we have known in the beginning that what started with the two of us would grow into the wonderful family we have 46 years later.  


How excited we were to begin our family. An actual human being created from our love. As we entered into the world of parenthood our family grew from the two of us to six, and the next generation of our love came into the world. It was a time when our love for each other was put on the shelf for a while as our children became the center of our life. How quickly the years passed by and before we knew it we became empty nesters. Back to just the two of us. A chance to fall in love all over again. Making the pain of letting go of our children a little bit easier. We still had each other.  


Soon our own children fell in love and begin their own lives with the same white lace, and promises, a kiss for luck, and they were on their way. Not long after they began their own family’s. A 3rd generation that began with us came into the world as we became grandparents. Our grandchildren the most beautiful of all the flowers grown from our garden of love.  


Proudly we stand together the two of us looking around at the family that began with us. We say in ah to one another, how could we have ever imagined how wonderful our life would turn out to be.  

Then our grandchild fell in love carrying on the same tradition of white lace and promises, a kiss for luck and their on their way. 

Soon we are great grandparents as the 4th generation of us comes into the world. 


We seem to be looking from a further distance now watching as if we are looking from a mountain top down at the valley of family that began with us.   

We were two young kids who didn’t have anything else going for us except our love for one another. 


But where there is love anything is possible and when you add God to the equation everything else seems to fall together. What began as two has grown into 21, and the funny thing is with each new generations that’s followed we still feel as if each day together we’ve only just begun to live because everyday is new opportunity to fall in love all over again because we still have each other. 

Happy Anniversary my love!!!

“The Thinker”

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“Think left and think right
And think low and think high.
Oh, the thinks you can think up
If you only try.
– Theodor Seuss Geisel

Boy, I don’t have to try to think. I think too much as it is. Even as a kid I was a deep thinker always living inside my head. I remember sitting in the backseat of our car looking out the window at everything yet not really seeing anything. I would hum as I was deep in thought. Maybe I did it to drown out the chatter of my siblings. I remember my Dad asking me, “what’s ya humming back there Connie?”

“Oh nothing,” I’d say. Because if I stopped to think what I was actually humming I’d lose my train of thought.

“Well, it sounds nice,” he’d say back to me.

I took the Myers Briggs personality test once and mine came back as an INFP introverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving personality. *INFPs never seem to lose their wonder. One might say they see things through rose colored glasses.

I have come a bit out of my shell these days, finding the need and nerve to actually say what’s on my mind. All those years of deep thinking I’ve become like an over inflated ballon letting the air out slowly. Finding a happy medium is what I have to work on. That is because if I’m thinking all the time, then I’m not living my life, and if I’m talking too much, I’m not listening to others.

As Seng-Ts’an says, “Stop talking, stop thinking, and there is nothing you will not understand.”

*based on Carl Jung and Isabel Briggs Myers personality type theory.

“So, What Are You Good At”

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“Imagine what a harmonious world it could be if every single person, both young and old, shared a little of what he is good at doing.” -Quincy Jones

Trump makes the statement that his new administration is running like a fine-tuned machine. Imagine what a harmonious country we’d have if only we could believe it was true. Running like a fine-tuned machine is a great example of what the summation of Quincy Jones quote amounts to. Every single person, both young and old sharing a little of what they are good at doing. The key word here is, doing.

I was recently in a conversation with two of my longtime friends. We each have a different political standing, but after a short but effective conversation we all three came to the same conclusion, that we all need to bring it home. Another word on a level in which we can make a difference on a smaller more manageable scale. Each one of us sharing a little of what we are good at doing. Add our passion for what we believe and the openness to listen to each other allows us to take what resonates with us, and leave the rest behind. Just like my two friends and I did. It was about finding a common ground respecting each other’s belief’s, and keeping our friendship in harmony, without putting a wedge between us.

It’s easy enough to talk the talk, but walking the walk is putting the talk into action.

So, what are you good at, and how can you use it to create harmony instead of discord between one another. You don’t have to run for president or do anything outstanding. All you must be is who you are, and offer to the world around you what you are good at doing.

Be the example in the world you want to see!

“The Teacher Within Our Two Selves”

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Whether you’re a man or a woman the message applies to each of us. The very jest of this statement is a lesson in itself, and one that gives us a formula that helps us better understand how to perceive why we do the things we do. Our lessons are found in our choices, our teachers are found through our mindfulness, our understanding comes from our perception. Good or bad we always have the option to correct our mistakes. 

“Simplicity, Patience and Compassion”

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Simplicity, patience and compassion are truly the three treasures I’ve learned to live by.

The lesson in patience came first for me as I was in the midst of raising four children. I asked for prayer from a wise woman, and she told me that when you pray for patience God gives you lots of opportunity to practice it. I was certainly getting lots of practice then, and did learn a great level of patience, but the learning didn’t stop with just that lesson. I found many other areas of my life that patience needed to be mastered, and I am still learning to this day.

I always had compassion for others. It’s a nice quality to have except when you’re always putting everyone else above yourself. The hardest area for me to work on was being compassionate toward myself. It required that I learn to love who I was, and I wasn’t able to do that until I saw myself through God’s eyes. As I became more loving and compassionate with myself, I found I was better able to serve others in a more compassionate way.

Simplicity came into play after years of trying to do everything the way I thought I was supposed to. It was actually in the midst studying the Bible over and again that the very word simplify began  popping off the pages. I would always ask the question at the end of my readings, “what is it that you’re trying to teach me today Lord?” Then I would write the answer that came to me in my journal. What I wrote was a dialogue between God and me, what he told me was that I was making things far more difficult than He had created life to be. As I let go of trying to find the answers I was looking for, I found simplicity by trusting in the process. The more I let go the freer I became, and with that freedom came the deepest of understandings in the simplest of ways.

Simplicity, patience and compassion are the ingredients that come from love, and there is nothing more important we can do in life than to do all things through love.

My Dream”

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I had a dream last night that far off in the distance I could see open doors. Each one had a different level of light shining through them, one especially brighter than the rest. There wasn’t a question of which one I’d wanted to pass through, of course it was the one with the brightest shining light.

I was shown in the dream that each day I have the same opportunity to find my way to that same door and to walk through it freely, but how easy it is to get side tracked by my own thoughts and the things I put my attention on. Next thing I know I find myself on the other side of the wrong door and I wonder how the heck did that happen. Why do I keep doing the very thing I want to avoid? Why isn’t my faith strong enough to lead me in the right direction?

As dreams go hopping from one thing to another. I find myself thinking about how someone has irritated me. I see myself watching the news and how agitated I become. I play these scenarios out in my head wondering why people don’t see what I see? Then I find myself on the other side of the door of negativity. The reason there is still a light that shines from this door of negativity is because behind this door there are lessons to be learned, and the light beyond the lesson leads me back to the brighter doorway I can still reach once I learn to let go of that which holds me back.

If I want to walk through the brightest doorway, which I do, then I must practice the mindfulness I need to do it. Working on not being distracted by all the ugliness that stands in my way. Beginning each day remembering all I am grateful, because it is that that leads me in a positive direction. Walking across that shining bright threshold asking as I pass through what can I do today for the better good of all. This gives me the opportunity to do something productive to build upon. What will it be today? Another lesson on how negative thoughts hold me back or going toward the doorway that offers the brightest light in which I can see the possibility of all things through the eyes of God.

 

“I Wonder What God Has In Store For Me”

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I sit with my stuffed Pug snuggled up against me as I sit in my sacred place and pray for those in need. I light my candle as I’ve always done. I do my readings with an open mind. Then I close my eyes as I turn within. Please help me God that I might see, what exactly it is you have in mind for me.

I look at my stuffed Pug and I wish he could breath. I wish I could feel his heart beat against me. Is it the right time? I look at his blank stair, and that dry hanging tongue. There’s no wet sloppy kiss in it for for me.

If it’s the right time why is it taking so long. All I want to do is adopt a pup who wants to be loved.

I sooth myself by saying let it go, if it’s meant to be things will start to flow.

Huh!!! I sigh! Ok I’ll wait, and see what it is God has in store for me. 

While I wait for my adoption papers to be approved, maybe you could say a prayer or two.

“Old Chinese Proverb”

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Tell me and I’ll forget; show me and I may remember; involve me and I’ll understand.”-Chinese Proverb 

 It’s funny that I read this quote today because I recently pulled my manuscript out to work on my 2nd drift. As I’m reading over it I’m reminded of what every instructor taught me, show don’t tell. My goal in the end product is to involve the reader so much so that they see, feel and understand what I experienced.

This quote also applies to everyday life. I learned better by doing. You certainly can’t learn to type or play instrument or even cook by being told how to do it. Showing helps you to know how, but the real understanding comes when you get involved and do the work.

Politic is the same thing. What people tell you is not necessarily true, and even if someone shows you. How do you know if it’s factual unless you get involved in finding the facts. How will you understand unless you do the research?
How easy it is to talk, and show someone how to walk, but the only way to understand is to get involved with what the talk and walk has to teach us.

“Poo-Wee! You Stink!”

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I love this quote! 

Our automatic feeling when someone starts smelling bad is to distance ourself from them or push them away. 

Even Jesus said, to turn the other cheek, meaning don’t react or retaliate. It’s difficult to lay our pride aside and still embrace them especially when the smell is overbearing. But the bottom line is if we don’t we’re going to slip into the same manure as they did, and stink just as bad.