“I have no choice about whether or not I have Parkinson’s. I have nothing but choice about how I react to it. In those choices, there’s freedom to do a lot of things in areas that I wouldn’t have otherwise found myself in.” –Michael J. Fox
I know many friends and family who are trying to learn how to live with the various life changing events in their life. Whether it’s a disease, loss of job, divorce or death of a loved one. These are life altering events that we don’t choose. There is a sense of loss in all of them which causes us to go through the various stages of grief. They involve denial, anger, bargaining, depression then acceptance.
I was told in my own time of grief to stop trying to fix how you feel. You have to allow yourself time to go through all the feelings and emotions. It’s like being on a roller coaster with all its ups and downs. Eventually we all get to a point when we feel brave enough to get off. That’s when the acceptance comes. It’s then that we can choose how we will let it define our life. It is then that we can begin to look around and see the many possibilities yet to experience and do.
Michael J. Fox does not let Parkinson’s disease define who he is. He’s learned along his own journey how to find himself beneath it. When we get back to our true self we are better able to consciously see the choices we could have never imagined.
My Dad use to say to me, if there’s anything you can do about it, then do it. If not than you have to let it go, and find a way to move forward.