“The Gift of Socialization”

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Did you know in our senior years socializing is as important as eating a healthy diet and exercising?

I knew a guy who preferred being in the company of younger people. He said it was because they made him feel more alive than those of his own age. I love the various ages of the people in my life. They bring lots of new and interesting things to the table of life. But it’s my fellow senior friends that I feel the most at home with. As a matter of fact, I don’t feel old at all when I’m with them. I feel free to simply be me. I might notice my friends getting older at first glance. I do the same thing first thing in the morning when I look at myself in the mirror. The funny thing is once I focus in on my eyes everything else around…

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“Grow Old With Me!”

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Love fail-funny old coupleBefore Tom and I married we’d walk everywhere we had to go because we didn’t have a car back then. We’d walk the blocks of rowhomes where we’d see old couples sitting on their porches. What pressed upon our hearts was how miserable they seemed in each other’s company. We were young and very much in love with our whole life ahead of us. But, seeing this left such an impression on us that I remember saying, “Tommy if we’re lucky enough to grow old together. Let’s promise that we’ll never stop talking, caring and loving each other same as we do right now.”  

I’ve been reading the letters we wrote to each other when Tom went off to college. In this one he wrote, “You know Connie, we’re going to have a beautiful life together. People, will one day look at us when we’ve grown old and say what…

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The Gift of Self-Giving

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One of my kids asked me what I was doing for Mother’s Day? I said, I didn’t even know it was coming up. I never thought much about my own Mother’s Day celebration. I was always focused on what I could do for my own mother and mother-in-law. It is after all a day set aside to celebrate the mother who raised you. It’s not supposed to be about celebrating yourself as a mother. They’ve both been gone a long time now. But we still think about them on this day remembering who they were and the things they did for us. Most of all how we wish we could still put our arms around them and wish them a happy Mother’s Day. There’s no one else to celebrate and thinking of myself feels selfish. But then I started thinking about it. Why shouldn’t I? I mean, if anyone were…

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”Bitter Sweetness”

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My soul reminds me today that there is a power within me that is greater than anything that life brings my way. It is the place of being where I stand with the lemons of life in my hands…and choice enters in. I can choose the limited sour bitterness it creates. Or let the sweetness of the spirit within teach me how to turn lemons into lemon aid.

“Seniors In The Garden”

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017ca58b46162024cb787e82dc7208c7172513f1f9“Though an old man, I am a young gardener.”-Thomas Jefferson 

I’ve been waiting patiently for winter to let go. I want to go out and play in my gardens. Yes, I said play. Because being in my garden makes me feel young again. I get so lost in what I’m doing that sometimes I don’t even realize how long I’ve been out there. My husband tells me that he loves to stand back and watch me when I’m gardening because I look so peaceful. Yet, at the end of the day, I can suffer for it if I don’t pace myself, use the right tools, and stretch before starting.

img_0394In the book “Gardening for Seniors” it cover’s all this and more. If there’s a will to garden in our senior years, then this book will help you find a way do it step by step.

Today it looks like we are…

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“The Dis-ease of Seniorities” — Embracing The Wrinkles of Time

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Welcome to my new blog on learning to embrace the senior years of our life. I will be posting every Friday if you’d like to become a follower. Hope you’ll join me in the journey I’d love to have you and any input you’d like to add to the conversation.

Connie

I was working on my memoir and started a sentence off with the word senior. It was about reaching that final year in high school. I sat there looking at the word senior, thinking how surreal the moment felt. I mean, here I was a senior again going through some of the same feelings and […]

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”The Tension of Resistance”

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”The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering.”-Ram Dass

What if the rosebud remained tightly folded within itself? Can you feel the tension of its resistance. It’s like it’s going against itself. All the energy it uses to hold itself back weakens and destroys it before it ever has the chance to know the full blossom of its purpose.

“The Power of Kindness”

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I had one of those days when it seemed like it lasted a lifetime. I kept looking at the clock thinking it had to be later then what it was. Don’t you love when that happens?

It was like I was in touch with everything that was happening. I realized that my practice of mindfulness is beginning to be a part of me without having to make a conscious effort. There was a combination of different things from a breakthrough in my story, to an interesting analogy on life I read. A beautiful Jacquie Lawson animated e-cards from a friend to welcoming in this first day of spring, and I watched as the dead of winter began to awaken, and slowly bloomed into a colorful spring. And as much as I’m anxious for warm weather to get here, I also enjoyed watching the beauty of winters last hurrah as the snow fell gentle outside my window. Then I turned the news on, you know, just checking in on what’s happening in the world. Another school shooting. One a little too close for comfort not far from the one my granddaughter goes to. I had a choose, I could get caught up in the ugliness of humanity or turn it off and try to get back to the good place my day started off with. I turned it off and checked in with some of my friends of Facebook. There it was all I needed to see to get me on the right track again. A quote that a friend posted on Facebook, “To all the people who are loving and kind to me. Thank you for the Sunshine you bring into my life.” Reminding us how powerful and life changing a simple thing like kindness can be. Then my mantra of the day came into play, “My struggle has end, I’m in harmony with my soul.”

 

 

“The Soul Always Finds A Way”

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My soul always finds a way to talk to me. If not through the written dialogue I have with it, then through something that stirs my heart. Of course, there’s always the ones that come from a sermon or great speech, and who can deny the word of god when he speaks to us through the bible. However, I find the most powerful ones come from the unexpected places like the profound words of a friend or something I’m reading totally unrelated to anything. They’re simple words or statements that jump out at me like a neon sign. It is my soul getting a word in edgewise, anyway it can.

In the past week, two statements did such a thing, and when I put them together they created a beautiful message to live by. The first simple noted the words out of a sentence, “The ease of Grace.” It reminded me of a well-oiled clock running smoothly as each mechanism glides together as it was created to do. That’s how life works when we’re not trying to wind the clock in the wrong direction.

The second part came after I made the comment, “I’m good for something,” and my friend says, “You’re good for a lot more then you realize.” Today, the words from a sentence jumped out at me again, “Be who you are here to be.”

“Okay, okay, I get the message, Soul.”

To be

who you are here to be,

appricate first who are,

and the ease of grace

will follow

flowing gently

through the soul

that you are.